Do we ever stop to think who is on the other side of the monitor? Do we always remember that it is a breathing human being? When we post in a community, do we consider how our words might be taken by others? Do we care?
When someone posts a question that we consider completely stupid or rude, does our own response add to the problem? Or, do we go out of our way to help turn a negative into a positive? Does being right but humiliating others make us more right?
Do we imagine that people are watching and thinking how smart we are?
Do we stop to think how we made that person on the other side of the monitor feel?
I have heard people say that if someone post something stupid or rude, they deserve whatever they get as a response. Seriously? Have we considered that we have no clue what is going on in their lives? Perhaps they are completely alone in life and they’re just looking for some attention. Maybe our response can show them a better way through our own example.
Have we considered that they may be extremely depressed and are acting out? Could our response make a difference, not just for the individual, but for the community as a whole? We don’t know what is going on in their lives, but as in any community, we know that right now, in this moment, we are all dealing with our own issues.
Right now, someone is trying to deal with a loss of a loved one. Someone else may be dealing with extensive financial difficulties or has been burned so many times that they choose to hurt others before someone can hurt them. They may even be considering taking their own life. We simply don’t know.
One thing we know for sure, on the other side of the monitor is a human being.
Am I asking that we be “nice” to those who we honestly feel don’t deserve it?
I am simply suggesting that maybe we consider if our own response helps or hurts the community as a whole. Perhaps we can make a difference in someone’s life today, just by giving a dang.
As always, just my 2 cents . . .
J. Cricket Walker of CricketWalker.com