“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
Yesterday, I lost it.
I allowed someone’s words to make me angry.
Oh, I don’t mean a little irritated.
I mean flat out, shaking from head to toe, angry.
That anger cost me a few hours of not helping someone who may have needed help. It cost me time holding and smiling with my grandson.
Heck, it even cost me enjoying a good cup of coffee.
That sad part is that anger had no impact on what made me angry to begin with. I am betting the person who shared the words that set me off had absolutely no clue that I was angry. He was likely kicking back and enjoying the afternoon sunshine.
Who is to blame here?
Shouldn’t I come up with 112 different ways to tell him that he is a complete idiot?
What would that solve?
Wouldn’t I simply have 112 more ways to get even angrier?
The truth is that I am 100% to blame for my own anger and for allowing that anger to consume me, literally stealing a few hours from my day.
ANGER IS A THIEF!
But the worst part? It wasn’t enough that I was totally lost in my own anger, I had to share it with someone else. I had to make sure to share every reason I was angry with a friend. WHY? Did I want the friend to be filled with anger too?
What kind of friend would dump this garbage on another friend’s day?
If I needed a way to blow off steam, I could have gone for a run, or written out my anger and then deleted it. I could have stood in the shower and screamed!
I think the key though is in preventing getting to that point.
If we don’t, then our moods are bound to carry over into our business life and the way that we treat our potential clients.
We truly do not have to attend every argument we are invited to.
We can CHOOSE not to get involved in discussions that we know may set us off.
We can also respectfully CHOOSE to remove ourselves from conversations that get out of hand before we lose it.
Perhaps sometimes we get so hung up on the little things that we forget what matters.
J. Cricket Walker of CricketWalker.com