How To Tell If Someone Is Lying To You

Interesting pictorial guide that helps you tell if people are lying to you.

“In business, politics and romance, it would be nice to know when we’re being lied to. Unfortunately humans aren’t very good at detecting lies. Our natural tendency is to trust others, and for day-to-day, low-stakes interactions, that makes sense. We save time and energy by taking statements like “I saw that movie” or “I like your haircut” at face value”.

Ten Ways:

  • Watch Body Language – especially sweating and fidgeting
  • Seek Detail – Push your subject for particulars
  • Beware Unpleasantness – Liars are noticeably less cooperative than truth-tellers
  • Observe Eye Contact – A subject’s failure to make eye contact can often be a sign of deceit
  • Signs of Stress  – Look for dilated pupils and a rise in vocal pitch
  • Listen for the Pause – Forced to make up a story on the spot, most speakers will take a beat or two to collect their thoughts.
  • Ask Again – Police interrogators often ask suspects to repeat their stories, and listen for inconsistencies. Smart people are usually more consistent than dumb people.
  • Beware Those Who Protest Too Much
  • Know Thyself – One reason liars succeed is that listeners don’t really want to know the truth, says psychologist Feldman. So be honest with yourself about what it is you want to hear.
  • Work on Your Intuition
  1. ukdazukdaz11-09-2006

    From experience if there’s two people you are dealing with and one is lying (or both of them are) they’ll look to each other for eye contact rather than look at you… it’ll be a glance to the other one usually when they think you’re not looking at them… its an obvious one… and if you catch them doing it they’ll quickly change their direction….

    Daz

    PS Peter, great blog by the way.

  2. vistadivine.comvistadivine.com11-09-2006

    Great tips I have also seen some nervousness in the untrue sellers and they also do not seem to be confident, isn’t it.

    Akash

  3. Peter Da VanzoPeter Da Vanzo11-09-2006

    That’s a great one, Daz. And cheers 🙂

    >>nervousness in the untrue sellers

    True. Some can also be hyped-up.

    Seek Detail works quite well. It is very difficult for someone to stay consistent for a long time under cross-examination.

  4. King CobraKing Cobra09-01-2008

    This is a little tougher to decipher online of course 🙂

    Ken
    King Cobra Poker

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